Tuesday, July 6, 2010

The Dance We Do

Miles & Piper P. McPiperson a.k.a. The Mayor of Munchtown (18 lb. cat!!!)
This pic is almost a year old, thanks to the teenage NO PICS rule that has come down...

This blog is where I talk about my horse, and this title would have been a rather nice one to illustrate some of my more recent dressage lessons, but I think a post about my first favorite guy (the human one that came ten years before Jackson...) to be a bit more fitting. Rarely do I say much about my son Miles, mainly because I come here to talk about my horse. So. Here we are. Miles is fourteen and has grown to be as tall as me--5'9--maybe taller, and is still growing. Miles also has gingery red hair and a smattering of freckles, and some of the most gorgeous green eyes I've ever seen. I love my son to death, and would gladly die for him in any torturous way you can dream up. It really is true that when you have a baby you reach inside your chest, extract your own heart, and give it away to that little person. Everything changes and nothing will ever be the same. NOTHING. Loving my son as I do, I am SO glad I only had one.

I get every comment in the world regarding this. "Oh, You'll meet someone and have another one", is my absolute favorite! I think it floors people when I tell them honestly, "You know, some people aren't meant to be parents, they just aren't really that great at it, and I have decided not to perpetuate the species any further." The predictable looks of amazement and shock are a sight to see, let me tell you! My favorite thing is when my reply actually seems to get through to someone, and they GET what I'm trying to say. Instead of having four children (and a mental breakdown), I have decided to stop. I personally think it shows great forethought, fortitude, and genuine caring for all the little potential Mindy's that won't get fertilized and hatched! That's right folks, I'm going to take a LEAP and say it! "Parenting just AIN'T MY THANG!" I have no regrets, and I try my hardest, but if you know this about yourself, why would you keep breeding?

My son and I have been battling it out over where he is going to move now that his Dad took an intelligence job in Maryland--he returned from Iraq after 10 months in May, and subsequently retired from the Air Force. Well, not battling JUST about that, we battle about any and everything! We have been like two storm fronts meeting, and fighting for the very same air in the room. Just the other day I nicely asked him to do something, and he just said, "No." There I am, "What, how dare you?" and go to squawk at him (like the teacher in Charlie Brown) and realized I was looking UP at my little 8 lb. bundle of joy. Wha? It freaked me out pretty badly. It was so VERY weird. Teenager in the house. Time to run. I was a VERY REBELLIOUS teenager...

So yes, the decision has been made by my son to go to Maryland and live with his father. We have always manage to co-parent somewhat; I have known his dad since we were both fifteen. I have also decided that after following his dad to three different states in order to keep Miles' world intact, he is now old enough to be without me. I sure hope I'm old enough to be without him! I'll go to Florida I hope, and we can start accumulating our frequent flyer points. Oh. And that is an act of love. I don't really like to fly.... Too bad I can't scuba dive or ride to go see him. Hmmm. I'll have to look into some sponsors for those two ideas... :)

So, the point of this early morning meandering is Miles. And how I think he is the BEST writer. He wrote me the following poem, and I think it's pretty cool. His other writing's are great, but this is a momma favorite. FOLKS! My son can write better than me!!! Oh yeah. Most people can... Well, anyway, enjoy.

Where I'm From

I am from nature, from Portal and Half Life.

I am from a one story house Filled with books and trinkets.

I am from the oak tree who is strong like my Father, and

The Daisy, soft like my Mother. When combined

Making me a leaf. I am from running and wrestling

And Bright neon Red hair, from Glenn and Mindy.

I am from laughing often and extreme stubborness.

From a penny saved is a penny earned,

And lead a horse with a carrot and stick.

I am from Christianity and laid back worship.

I am from Ireland, and sushi and Payee.

I am Miles, and this is where I'm from.


  1. I feel the same way you do. My line has always been: "God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I have one child. What does that tell you?" My son and I came to that point, but after spending a summer with his father, he decided life with me wasn't so bad. Regardless of the outcome, Miles will respect you for allowing him to make this choice. I know it will be hard, but hang in there.

  2. Parenting is the toughest job - ever. There are days when I feel like the worst mom in the world. But I keep trying.

    Miles is a wonderful boy and it's a testament to all you've done. The next part of his journey is his own.

    Lovely poem too...

  3. I feel your pain in this. Sometimes doing the best thing for our kids is the HARDEST thing for us. You'll both be OK!

    Can't believe I've not been to your blog before... Jackson is a handsome feller! Looking forward to reading more here and getting to know you guys!

  4. Um, yeah, I get you. I'm not having kids. Period. Kudos to you for raising your one. I had a friend that once said, "I don't want kids. I just want their ponies."

  5. I actually planned this kid! So, I know if I hadn't had a child, I would want one. I am one of those people who wants to experience EVERYTHING; I can't just take someone's word for it! SIGH. This is a very good quality, but also dangerous when unleashed incorrectly. LOL! If he turns out OK, it will all be worth it. Of course I'll love him no matter what, but his potential is AMAZING, if he doesn't use it and do something kickin' cool, I WILL KICK him in the ass!

  6. Mindy!
    Missed you and now I have my Mindy fix...love your son too...he does write so well...really learned so much about him and you both too-though that little ditty. Wow...
    I was not able to have children..but sense that it is for the best. I never played with dolls..was not loving towards- much- as a child, and now..I drench myself in what I care for..I think I would be a good mother..so I mother whatever and whoever is in front of me. God chooses! I never desired to give birth. So I am not disappointed.

    Miles will most likely appreciate you from afar- sooner than he thinks- after he is away awhile! You are so funny, and lovely Mindy..I pray that Florida can be managed easily so and that Jackson transports easily too...be looking for details as you know them..hang in there my dear!
    You been riding at all?


  7. What a wonderful poem! He truly is a talented writer! Hopefully this change will strengthen your relationship. I was a horrible teenager, but as soon as I went to college my mother and I became best friends. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I was never cut out to be a parent, too giant of a responsibility. I'm sure you have a done a wonderful job with your son, and one day he will appreciate it.


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